Tuesday, 8 June 2010


I just came back from Selayang Mall. I went there while waiting for my car to be serviced somewhere in Selayang Jaya.

I brought the kids along while I was about to pay for my purchases, I got a call from an old friend who needed a sounding board. I gave her my honest opinion and the rest was up to her...sigh. And while we were about to eat, I received another call from a close friend. An unexpected call...sigh. After lunch as I was about to let the kids play at the play area (they have rides and stuff), I was approached by someone. Another shocker for the day.

It was Ani, Mohamad's wife. I was stunned. Today is the 15th day of his passing and she brought her kids to eat at the KFC because the oldest daughter requested it...sigh. She was crying when she called out to me and immediately I felt the sadness and the hopelessness.

It was hard for her to be in Selayang Mall because that's where they always go together, sometimes 2 or 3 times a week. I just let her talk her heart out and I listened because I think that's what she needs the most, someone who just stop and listen. She told me that she always depended on arwah to do most things and now she's at a lost. She couldn't cry infront of the kids because she needs to show a strong front, but my goodness, she's breaking apart...sigh.

I told her that she needs to be strong and Allah would not give her something that she couldn't handle, eventually. Sounded like empty words but I truly believe in this, actually. There's always a higher order of events that only He knows and as always, He knows best.

I suggested to her to start a blog. Somewhere that she could pour her heart out and hopefully help her to figure things out and survive this ordeal. I know she needs an outlet to write about her worries and share her tribulations. I truly hope she would start writing, so she could lighten the burden, somehow. I bet there are many out there who would help her through this, insyaallah.

Today, I listened. I stop talking and I listened. Hopefully, I helped by listening to the people around me. So far, it has been quite a day for self-reflection also...sigh.


Jo said...

What a good friend you were to your widow friend. And I also hope she starts a blog. It is a good way to journal your feelings. Have a wonderful day. Jo (Khartoum)

Ocean Girl said...

15 days, masih baru sangat.

Semoga Ani, dan kita semua, diberkati Allah dengan keredhaan, kesabaran, dan kekuatan iman.

Ina said...

Dear Jo,

Sometimes, listening is all it needs...

Dear OG,

Yep, still raw. Amin...

Wan Sharif said...

Salam Ina,
Sounded like empty words but I truly believe in this, actually...

Ina was right..
The last ayat in Albaqarah 2:286

On no soul doth Allah Place a burden greater than it can bear. It gets every good that it earns, and it suffers every ill that it earns. (Pray:) “Our Lord! Condemn us not if we forget or fall into error; our Lord! Lay not on us a burden Like that which Thou didst lay on those before us; Our Lord! Lay not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. Blot out our sins, and grant us forgiveness. Have mercy on us. Thou art our Protector; Help us against those who stand against faith.”

Take good care, may Allah bless you and your loved one Sokmo sokmo